Voice Notes
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Voice notes in British dating culture occupy an interesting middle ground: more personal than a text, less demanding than a call. Their use in dating contexts is growing.
When they work well: Explaining something nuanced, adding warmth to a message that might come across as flat in text, responding when you're not able to type properly but want to reply genuinely.
British voice note etiquette: Keep them under 90 seconds for dating contexts. Don't send a three-minute monologue to someone you've matched with twice. Funny, warm, or thoughtful — never a lecture.
The phone call: We're a nation that has largely abandoned phone calls for people we don't know well — which is a shame, because a ten-minute call tells you more about chemistry than two weeks of texting. Suggesting a brief call before a first date is becoming more normal post-pandemic and is worth considering.
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