Conversations on Love
Natasha Lunn · 2021
Lunn interviewed therapists, philosophers and bereaved partners. The result is the most generous book about love we know.
Local pick
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Books we recommend
A short, opinionated list. The eight books we hand to friends asking real questions about love, attachment, and how to stay together.
The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read
Philippa Perry · 2019
Sold as parenting; really a manual for any close relationship. Perry runs a London therapy practice and writes like someone who has heard everything.
Local pick
Normal People
Sally Rooney · 2018
An Irish novel about two people who keep failing each other gently. The miscommunication chapter is required reading.
Local pick
The Course of Love
Alain de Botton · 2016
London-based de Botton's quiet novel about a marriage. The most devastating depiction of long-term love we have read.
Local pick
Mating in Captivity
Esther Perel · 2006
Why long-term desire is so hard, and how the things that make a relationship safe can also make it dull.
Global classic
Attached
Amir Levine & Rachel Heller · 2010
The pop-psychology entry point to attachment theory. Reductive in places — still a fast way in.
Global classic
Hold Me Tight
Sue Johnson · 2008
Built on Emotionally Focused Therapy. The seven conversations every couple eventually has.
Global classic
Why Does He Do That?
Lundy Bancroft · 2002
If you have ever wondered whether something about your relationship is off, start here.
Global classic