After Match
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You've matched. You've had a few good exchanges. Now comes the bit British people are surprisingly bad at: actually suggesting you meet.
The British problem: We often hover in the messaging stage for far too long — it feels lower stakes than suggesting a real meeting and risking rejection. But the endless messaging stage produces worse outcomes. The only way to know if there's chemistry is in person.
When to suggest: After five to ten good exchanges. Not right away (too keen) and not after three weeks of messaging (you've used up all your best material).
How to suggest: Directly, with a specific option. "Fancy grabbing a drink this week — Thursday or Friday work?" beats "we should meet up sometime." Vague invitations get vague responses.
If they say they're busy: A genuine interest will come with a counter-suggestion. "Can't Thursday but how about next Tuesday?" means yes. "Maybe sometime" means no.
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