Past Relationships
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Difficult conversations share one thing in common: we put them off. And the longer we do, the more difficult they become.
The golden rule: Talk about what you feel, not what they do. "I've been feeling a bit disconnected lately" opens a door. "You never make time for us" slams it.
Money in the UK: Talking about money is genuinely awkward for many British people — more taboo even than sex in some relationships. But it needs to happen before you move in together. Shared accounts, splitting costs, debt, savings — all of it. The three-account model (yours, mine, ours) works well for many British couples.
The future conversation: Between six and twelve months in. With curiosity rather than pressure. "What do you imagine for us in a couple of years?" works better than "So what are we doing here exactly?"
Being unhappy: "I'm not happy in our relationship at the moment, and I care about us enough to say it" — that's an attempt to save something, not to end it. The silence about unhappiness is what usually ends things.
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